Dating Services: Should You Take a Chance?
On-line Dating Services, are they worth your time and effort? Do they improve the odds you will meet that special someone?
* Does this sound like you? My thoughts travel far and wide, my emotions up and down...the many parts of me each seeking a different type of person. -- Some of established wealth and success, some of handsome profiles, physique or beauty, some of power and a sense of danger, some of a stable and nurturing character, some who possess the ability to deeply love, and appreciate the me that is -- the me that needs space to grow; the me with my inherit imperfections.
* There is nothing wrong with wanting it all in a relationship. But, it is rare we ever get it all, if at all. It seems fickle, how so many of us change our personality throughout the dating game. It's like going through a turn-style and seeing the many faces of you, from circumstances that change our personality in the positive and negative experiences of dating.
And yet, isn't that exactly the way so many of us are? ... Playing different rolls with each new romantic adventure? Trying to adapt to the dating scene, while searching out the one very special individual that sets off an alarm - an alarm that let's us know this is the one?
In an ad by one of the Match Making Services, Dr. Neil Warren states: "he did it his way for 30 years - he did it eHarmony's way for three months, and he has found that special someone." -- Sounds good - but, is it the hype and excitement of the search that makes you think it's for real, or is it truly something special? ... Dr. Warren admits his service does not track back on matches that may end up in marriage.
...So are dating services really worth the time and effort? -- It all depends on you, and what you want out of it: fun and games - companionship - a serious relationship? What do you think? -- Is it a game we play so as to detach ourselves from commitment and having to put up with "stuff?" -- Have we become so self-absorbed and inconsiderate, that all that matters is what we want? -- Are we afraid to commit, because it requires too much of our selves, our time, our emotions or perhaps with previous baggage not dealt with? Are we looking for the wrong thing? -- It is definitely easier to just pick our selves up and walk out - no strings attached, by keeping the turn-style door of dating revolving.
...Part of the problem is that many of us never really learn to fully trust, love and develop a relationship. Dating can be a good experience, but it can also be so inequitable, untrustworthy, and even down right emotionally exhausting. -- It's taking a chance on a roller coaster ride. With highs and lows, going around and many times ending in a dead-end, whether we use a dating service or are engaged in a casual meeting.
Our relationships become like commodities. Liken to disposable paper plates, we're used - enjoyed as a convenience in the moment, and then discarded as one looks for another style plate, at the drop of a hat.
It certainly looks like we may be wasting a lot of our life with one failure after the other, and missing-the-boat when someone fine comes sailing by. It all depends on what you are looking for and what you are willing to invest of yourself, your time, emotion and energy. -- Then there's the question of: " Do you really know what you want and are you playing the game the right way? Are you being truthful to yourself on what you're ready for?
* In on-line dating, be open about what you want and don't want in a relationship. Keep in mind: good communication and conversation will allow you to gain an insight into the personality, character, and whether a person may be a good fit, and worth a first or second date. -- " Playing games and trying to be what you are not will only bring disaster and heartache."
* If indeed you are looking for that someone special, you may be sending out the wrong vibrations in your behavior and the things you say: -- The person may understand the dating scene with you as totally different from your viewpoint. Alas, you both end up unhappy. You both may be playing at the dating game instead of enjoying the relationship and growing with it. ... "You can catch more bees with honey than vinegar - but, going overboard may turn both parties off. Don't over the BS, try a little more sincerity - you may just be surprised at what will happen.
A good quality Dating Service may have its advantages for the following reasons:
As in all things, proceed cautiously. Let your heart rule only after your brain has cleared the way. -- Don't second-guess yourself: make sure you are heading in the right direction for the right reasons. And most of all, -- don't let previous fear or rejection stop you from seeking out real happiness. ... It's life happening; so enjoy the journey, enjoy the different type of dates, and you will know when the right one comes along, because he or she will send shivers down your spine and light up your life.
Jane Doe Chronicles - CeCe Day Hill (cgh) (c) 2005- 2007 - All Rights Reserved
The Jane Doe Chronicles-CeCe Day Hill (cgh) (c) 2005-2007 All Rights Reserved
* Does this sound like you? My thoughts travel far and wide, my emotions up and down...the many parts of me each seeking a different type of person. -- Some of established wealth and success, some of handsome profiles, physique or beauty, some of power and a sense of danger, some of a stable and nurturing character, some who possess the ability to deeply love, and appreciate the me that is -- the me that needs space to grow; the me with my inherit imperfections.
* There is nothing wrong with wanting it all in a relationship. But, it is rare we ever get it all, if at all. It seems fickle, how so many of us change our personality throughout the dating game. It's like going through a turn-style and seeing the many faces of you, from circumstances that change our personality in the positive and negative experiences of dating.
And yet, isn't that exactly the way so many of us are? ... Playing different rolls with each new romantic adventure? Trying to adapt to the dating scene, while searching out the one very special individual that sets off an alarm - an alarm that let's us know this is the one?
In an ad by one of the Match Making Services, Dr. Neil Warren states: "he did it his way for 30 years - he did it eHarmony's way for three months, and he has found that special someone." -- Sounds good - but, is it the hype and excitement of the search that makes you think it's for real, or is it truly something special? ... Dr. Warren admits his service does not track back on matches that may end up in marriage.
...So are dating services really worth the time and effort? -- It all depends on you, and what you want out of it: fun and games - companionship - a serious relationship? What do you think? -- Is it a game we play so as to detach ourselves from commitment and having to put up with "stuff?" -- Have we become so self-absorbed and inconsiderate, that all that matters is what we want? -- Are we afraid to commit, because it requires too much of our selves, our time, our emotions or perhaps with previous baggage not dealt with? Are we looking for the wrong thing? -- It is definitely easier to just pick our selves up and walk out - no strings attached, by keeping the turn-style door of dating revolving.
...Part of the problem is that many of us never really learn to fully trust, love and develop a relationship. Dating can be a good experience, but it can also be so inequitable, untrustworthy, and even down right emotionally exhausting. -- It's taking a chance on a roller coaster ride. With highs and lows, going around and many times ending in a dead-end, whether we use a dating service or are engaged in a casual meeting.
Our relationships become like commodities. Liken to disposable paper plates, we're used - enjoyed as a convenience in the moment, and then discarded as one looks for another style plate, at the drop of a hat.
It certainly looks like we may be wasting a lot of our life with one failure after the other, and missing-the-boat when someone fine comes sailing by. It all depends on what you are looking for and what you are willing to invest of yourself, your time, emotion and energy. -- Then there's the question of: " Do you really know what you want and are you playing the game the right way? Are you being truthful to yourself on what you're ready for?
* In on-line dating, be open about what you want and don't want in a relationship. Keep in mind: good communication and conversation will allow you to gain an insight into the personality, character, and whether a person may be a good fit, and worth a first or second date. -- " Playing games and trying to be what you are not will only bring disaster and heartache."
* If indeed you are looking for that someone special, you may be sending out the wrong vibrations in your behavior and the things you say: -- The person may understand the dating scene with you as totally different from your viewpoint. Alas, you both end up unhappy. You both may be playing at the dating game instead of enjoying the relationship and growing with it. ... "You can catch more bees with honey than vinegar - but, going overboard may turn both parties off. Don't over the BS, try a little more sincerity - you may just be surprised at what will happen.
A good quality Dating Service may have its advantages for the following reasons:
- You have an informal and relaxing private atmosphere in which to search out that special someone who shares your values, beliefs and attitudes.
- You have the opportunity to review many possibilities on your own terms with no commitment - no embarrassment - no fear of rejection.
- A dating service allows you to get to know someone from their profile and makes your selection easier based on realistic expectations.
- A dating service can allow you to be true to yourself, or not... The "profile" will allow you to narrow the field based on likes and dislikes, and backgrounds. -- Even the emotional feel of the way in which the profile is written can be a clue to a personality. A dating service will help you to "please yourself." -- If visual is your thing, you'll see upfront who may be your date.
- A dating service will offer you so many opportunities...that the odds are, somewhere along the way, you will end up lowering your guard, opening your heart and dating with a genuine heartfelt purpose.
- A dating service will give you a plethora of potential mates. It will all depend on your needs at a precise time... Love is forever searching its mate. -- I have loved four men in my life, married a second after the death of the first. -- So, I can say unequivocally, "you can love more than one person, and each one will be loved in a different way. -- Each will invoke the excitement and heart palpitating feelings of emotion and desire - the alarm will go off. You will have a mutual attraction in many different ways, -- but, the bottom line is, you will want to be together all the time, because you have loved again!
As in all things, proceed cautiously. Let your heart rule only after your brain has cleared the way. -- Don't second-guess yourself: make sure you are heading in the right direction for the right reasons. And most of all, -- don't let previous fear or rejection stop you from seeking out real happiness. ... It's life happening; so enjoy the journey, enjoy the different type of dates, and you will know when the right one comes along, because he or she will send shivers down your spine and light up your life.
Jane Doe Chronicles - CeCe Day Hill (cgh) (c) 2005- 2007 - All Rights Reserved
The Jane Doe Chronicles-CeCe Day Hill (cgh) (c) 2005-2007 All Rights Reserved
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